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Card #c1436IR // #c1436Synthesis

Predatory guests weaponize a host's manners by acting as if an unasked favor is already granted. Refusing feels ruder than complying, so the host surrenders the house before hearing the terms.

— In our words · Source: The Hobbit (J.R.R. Tolkien)

[Use when]

When a client or partner acts as if an unapproved scope expansion is settled, stop the meeting and state your refusal plainly.

[Why it matters]

Bilbo empties his pantry and signs a lethal contract just to avoid seeming rude. Saving face in the foyer costs your skin outside.

Filed under situations:When you need a yes and they’re not there yet

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