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Card #c357IR // #c357Verbatim excerpt
Not tense we-can’t-fight-in-public silence, or the shame of bored we-have-nothing-left-to-say silence, but amiable quiet.

— Source: Tilt (Emma Pattee)

[Use when]

Use when distinguishing peaceful quiet from relationship failure quiet.

[Why it matters]

Taxonomy of quiet: peace and failure sound different, and naming the difference is the relationship work.

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