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Card #c752IR // #c752Verbatim excerpt
“At some level everyone fears death. I fear it right up front. “Baba, I am the one in this family who is obsessed by death. I have always been the one.” You are the happy one. I am the doomed fool.

— Source: White Noise (Don DeLillo)

[Use when]

When a partnership's unspoken role assignments break down — the strong one turns out to be terrified too.

[Why it matters]

The Dylar confession scene: Babette's terror has been hidden for years, and Jack's identity as the family's designated death-obsessive collapses. Two people who told each other everything discover the one thing neither said. The marriage's division of emotional labor — she is happy, he is doomed — was always a fiction.

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