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Card #c1373IR // #c1373Synthesis

"“That girl is not your competition. You are your only competition and that’s how it always will be. Focus on you and what you’re doing, and not on her. You gotta work harder.”"

— In our words · Source: Matriarch (Tina Knowles)

[Use when]

Someone you're coaching wants you to fight a battle they could win by getting better.

[Why it matters]

Nine-year-old Beyoncé lost her lead parts in Girls Tyme after straining her voice teaching everyone else. Knowles refused to complain to the managers and pushed the voice lessons Beyoncé had been avoiding. Within about three months Beyoncé had her spot back. She later traced the song "Survivor" to that lesson.

Filed under situations:When you’re stuck and running on emptyWhen the team is looking to you to lead

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