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Card #c1374IR // #c1374Verbatim excerpt
"“Mama, I’m happy that you didn’t go up there and fight with them,” she admitted. “You made me work for it.”" "I couldn’t just be her mom for that moment; I needed to be her mom for her whole life."

— Source: Matriarch (Tina Knowles)

[Use when]

You could make a problem go away for someone on your team with one phone call.

[Why it matters]

Stepping in would have fixed the moment and taught nothing. Knowles chose the harder answer, "You need to work harder," and her daughter thanked her for it later. Rescuing someone can cost them the lesson they need.

Filed under situations:When the team is looking to you to lead

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