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Card #c1383IR // #c1383Verbatim excerpt
"He reached for the light switch and flicked it off. They sat in darkness for one beat, two beats. Three. He turned the switch on again. “Destiny’s Child is keeping the fucking lights on in here,” he said."

— Source: Matriarch (Tina Knowles)

[Use when]

A partner who depends on your results is treating you as the problem.

[Why it matters]

Sony had told Mathew his wife was limiting the group while the album was among the year's top sellers. He reminded executives who generated the revenue, dramatically enough that the moment became legendary. When you're carrying the numbers, make the other side feel it.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen you need to know who really decides

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