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Card #c1342IR // #c1342Synthesis

"“I will never let anyone bring me to my knees like that,” he says. “If you’re going to get my vote, you’re going to earn it."

— In our words · Source: Courage Can Save Us (Rye Barcott)

[Use when]

The other side links an unrelated favor to your agreement.

[Why it matters]

When White House aides hinted that destroyer funding for Maine depended on his vote, Jared Golden called it an illegal quid pro quo. The funding stayed. Refusing a threat on the spot made the next one less likely.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen you need to know who really decides

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Same situation, different book

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