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"To dissent from others' views is regarded as an insult, because it is their condemnation. Disgust is doubled on account of the thing blamed and of the person who praised it."

— In our words · Source: The Art of Worldly Wisdom (Baltasar Gracián)

[Use when]

You think a popular plan is wrong and are tempted to say so in the all-hands.

[Why it matters]

Disagreeing in public offends twice: once for the thing blamed and once for the person who praised it. Gracián keeps the private judgment and voices it "before few and fit persons."

Filed under situations:When you need a yes and they’re not there yetWhen the other side has more leverage

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