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Card #c1336IR // #c1336Synthesis

"Good rule in life: I try hard not to offend; I try harder not to be offended."

— In our words · Source: Courage Can Save Us (Rye Barcott)

[Use when]

Someone takes a public shot at you and you want to come out ahead.

[Why it matters]

Saturday Night Live mocked Crenshaw's eye patch, which covers a wound from Afghanistan. He answered on Twitter with this line before his complaint, and the show invited him on to accept an on-air apology. Grace under attack won him a larger audience than anger would have.

Filed under situations:When you need a yes and they’re not there yet

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