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Card #c1340IR // #c1340Synthesis

"“They taught us to be objective by listening to both sides,” Lorron recalls. “They taught us to seek advice from people we respected—but to make our own decisions in the end.”"

— In our words · Source: Courage Can Save Us (Rye Barcott)

[Use when]

You're gathering opinions on a big decision and risk handing it to the loudest adviser.

[Why it matters]

James's brother describes how their parents raised them. Hearing both sides and asking trusted people widens what you see. Keeping the final decision with you keeps you accountable for it.

Filed under situations:When you must decide and the facts aren’t in

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