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Card #c1376IR // #c1376Verbatim excerpt
"But he also reeled off a list of people who’d lost on Star Search but went on to do great things. “The ones who make it, win or lose, don’t quit.”" "Mathew saw the Star Search loss as a sign that he needed to step up—he was not going to be outvoted on something as important as the choice of song."

— Source: Matriarch (Tina Knowles)

[Use when]

You've just lost publicly and need to decide what changes.

[Why it matters]

Mathew asked Ed McMahon directly why the girls lost. The answer was that they were too young and had more work to do. The loss became part of Destiny's Child's origin story, and Mathew took a formal co-manager role in response.

Filed under situations:When you’re stuck and running on emptyWhen it’s day one and nothing exists yet

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