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Card #c1077IR // #c1077Synthesis

"Surprise them when in a pleasant mood, when a repast of body or soul has just left them refreshed" "It is no use applying when another has been refused, since the objection to a No has just been overcome."

— In our words · Source: The Art of Worldly Wisdom (Baltasar Gracián)

[Use when]

You need a yes from someone and can pick the moment to ask.

[Why it matters]

Timing gets three rules: ask when the person is in a good mood, avoid asking just after they refused someone else, and avoid asking after a loss. Having just said no once, they find the next no easy.

Filed under situations:When you need a yes and they’re not there yetWhen the other side has more leverage

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