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"He was careful not to describe this as an ultimatum, but as a simple fact." "In framing the problem thus, Robert Kennedy was, in effect, eliciting Dobrynin’s help as an ally against a common problem: namely, hawks in the US government and military."

— In our words · Source: The Oxford Handbook of Modern Diplomacy (Andrew F. Cooper, Jorge Heine & Ramesh Thakur)

[Use when]

You need to convey a deadline without triggering the defiance an ultimatum invites.

[Why it matters]

On 27 October Robert Kennedy told the Soviet ambassador that military action might come within days because of pressure on the president. He then offered the Turkish missiles as a carrot. Welch calls this the single most effective private channel of the crisis.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen you need a yes and they’re not there yet

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