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Card #c1068IR // #c1068Synthesis

"He that plays with cards exposed runs a risk of losing the stakes." "Do not even let your tastes be known, lest others utilise them either by running counter to them or by flattering them."

— In our words · Source: The Art of Worldly Wisdom (Baltasar Gracián)

[Use when]

You are about to tell a counterpart which option you love before the terms are set.

[Why it matters]

Gracián extends secrecy from plans to tastes. A known preference gives the other side two levers: block what you like, or flatter it to soften you.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen you need a yes and they’re not there yet

More from The Art of Worldly Wisdom

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Same situation, different book

#c1356Show them the engine, skip the pitchYou have a metric that proves your value better than any presentation.From Cancel Me If You Can #c1322Fill the reservoir of trust before you need itYou'll eventually need a deal with a rival and have no reason yet to talk to them.From Courage Can Save Us #c1279The Smarties test for adultsYou're sure the other side must see what you see.From Trade Outside the Box #c1277Listen and then thinkYou're preparing what to say in a meeting where you haven't yet heard the other side.From The Oxford Handbook of Modern Diplomacy