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"Thus the only way to drive him from the better course is to take it yourself, for his folly will cause him to desert it"

— In our words · Source: The Art of Worldly Wisdom (Baltasar Gracián)

[Use when]

Your rival staked out the sensible position first and you feel pressure to oppose it.

[Why it matters]

Gracián says arguing the worse side out of pride means "you begin the fight already beaten." Take the better course yourself, and an obstinate opponent will often desert it to keep disagreeing.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen you need a yes and they’re not there yet

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