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"I much prefer the term ‘honest broker’. For me it is important that the negotiating parties know who I am, what I stand for, and where I draw the red lines." "The more mediators hide their influence, the more they actually increase their chance of being seen as manipulative."

— In our words · Source: The Oxford Handbook of Modern Diplomacy (Andrew F. Cooper, Jorge Heine & Ramesh Thakur)

[Use when]

You're mediating between two people or teams and feel you have to hide your own views.

[Why it matters]

Martti Ahtisaari, who mediated in Namibia, Aceh and Kosovo, separates impartiality toward the parties from neutrality on the issues. Norway's Sri Lanka mediators pressed on children's rights while staying balanced between the sides. Declared positions earn more trust than a pose of having none.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen the team is looking to you to lead

More from The Oxford Handbook of Modern Diplomacy

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