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"It is the negotiators who matter, not the mediators—but in some cases mediators can help." "Mediation cannot succeed unless the right people are at the negotiating table."

— In our words · Source: The Oxford Handbook of Modern Diplomacy (Andrew F. Cooper, Jorge Heine & Ramesh Thakur)

[Use when]

You're brokering a deal and one side has sent someone who can't commit.

[Why it matters]

Ahtisaari warns that focusing on the mediator disempowers the parties and suggests peace comes from outside. The people at the table must be able to deliver their side. If a group has no legitimate leader, he says there is no point mediating until one emerges.

Filed under situations:When the other side has more leverageWhen the team is looking to you to lead

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